A new standard offered for women through the Esoteric Breast Massage
In my experience it is a rare woman who can say she has grown up truly honoring of herself, able to embrace her breasts as a precious part of herself, let alone knowing they allow her access to an inherent depth of beauty so profound that once felt, provides an undeniable sense of herself and her worth from the inside out.
I was no exception to this and knew no woman who could say that this was her experience either.
Women’s breasts and sex are generally intrinsically linked and most definitely this was the case for me. Growing up through teen and early adult years breasts represented a part of my body that had one predominant purpose… for sexual pleasure with a partner of my choice, which means, in other words, that I saw them as sexual objects!
This is a key statement as it does not mean I was promiscuous in any way, that I saw women as second rate citizens or that I held any obvious sense of myself being less than worthy of love – as far as I knew love to be. And yes at some stage my breasts would also provide the means to feed babies… but until that time, they were for enjoyment during sex and to make me ‘attractive’ as a woman.
When said like that, the truth of it is, I saw myself as an object of sexual attractiveness, and my breasts as center-stage, there for what they could provide, both for my chosen partner and for me. Nothing wrong with that you might say, nobody is getting hurt and back then, I would have wholeheartedly agreed.
As an attractive, intelligent and well-educated young woman, I had almost exclusively long and committed relationships where respect was a hallmark and in which nothing non-consensual ever took place. Hardly the usual scenario in which we associate abuse and by any measure at the time, I could never have called what took place within those relationships abusive… and yet today I would – being clear that this was not through any particular fault or obvious ill- intention of the partners I chose.
Like many women, I never felt enough – only seeing what was wrong by virtue of comparison to myself with an ideal standard – one of course I never lived up to. The sexualized view of breasts I held very much contributed to how I saw myself as a woman, measuring and comparing myself always to an ideal standard that was of course always different in some way to how I was. In fact it was based on what I thought a man would want, whether that be a partner, or a man in passing whom I sought some form of approving look.
In that sense I was a chameleon, with no solid sense of myself coming from within to provide an unshakeable foundation of who I was. In fact ask me who I was back then and I would have listed my physical attributes, and any accomplished traits I felt worthy of mention.
It was an ongoing self-critical relationship I had with myself, including with my breasts and it was inextricably linked to a lack of self worth, not really knowing myself other than what others fed back to me as being so, or what I measured myself against by way of ideal standard. Hence it was also linked to a lack of confidence I lived with on a daily basis.
Again make no mistake, I was no wallflower, or walkover and nor would you have known I felt this way from outside appearances… such was my first 20 years of adult life.
Enter the Esoteric Breast Massage.
As a woman, I have undergone a radical turnaround through my introduction to the Esoteric Breast Massage (EBM) in 2006. Since that time I have transformed this typical self-negating and self-abusive relationship with myself into one that is now in complete contrast.
I discovered, through the impeccable integrity this modality is practiced under, a truth to me as a woman that is undeniable, intrinsically beautiful and precious beyond words. This is an unquestionable life-changing experience for any woman and it most certainly was for me!
I discovered that my breasts in fact played a central role in accessing a depth of connection to who I am as a woman, and brought an awareness of a dimension to me that I had previously denied. From this connection, the willingness and ability to care for and nurture myself, the ability to discern what was in fact truly loving and honouring of this undeniable depth, was profound, rejuvenating and an out-and-out game changer – for life!
Through the Esoteric Breast Massage an important distinction became clear – the difference between touch that had an agenda or was objectifying and touch that was truly loving – by its quality of energy. I became aware that loving touch and sexual touch is NOT one and the same thing, just because the touch incorporates the breasts. From here I learned that I could feel the quality of touch and know if it was with a respect and honouring of this depth of being. And if not, it was not truly loving, regardless of the seeming loving intent.
So, the Esoteric Breast Massage has been at the heart of the support I chose to experience and commit to in the liberation of myself from this lifelong undermining way of being. The depth of quality I now feel within is what I spent years overriding and disregarding and in its place, the more superficial expectations to look a certain way or provide a certain appeal for my partner of choice.
I sought a level of relationship that I can now feel as abusive – not because society today would say that it was, but because it was with complete disregard and denial of that depth of preciousness in me. The disregard and denial of its presence was of course first and foremost my own and so no blame whatsoever is leveled.
The quality of touch, interaction and relationship I accepted, and in truth sought, was without awareness, connection and honour of what actually lay within. Consequently, the richness and depth possible for a deeply loving relationship was denied, because I denied it first to myself.
The restoration of this foundational depth of relationship I now have was due to the support offered through the Esoteric Breast Massage, as taught through Universal Medicine, and as practiced with the dedication and impeccable integrity of those practitioners who offer this modality as part of their practice.
If we are to have any hope in turning around the current trend of self-abuse, escalating self-harm and promiscuity evident amongst women of all ages, then we must look to support women in re-establishing a true relationship with this inherent depth of herself, as through feeling this again each woman can begin to know who she is, that she is undeniably precious to herself and in this, unreservedly worth loving by another.
In the restoring of this natural marker within, she is able to begin re-building the relationship with herself and with life around her, to be an ongoing reflection of this depth of true beauty, inspiring it naturally in others around her at the same time.
It is with deepest thanks and appreciation for the inspiration of Serge Benhayon in the introduction of this powerful healing modality, now made available to all women.
Please note, the Esoteric Breast Massage, as taught through Universal Medicine, has ONLY EVER been practiced by women, and is taught exclusively by women, for women. Never will it or should it be any other way.
By Jenny Ellis
Jenny is an EBM practitioner herself, incorporating this profound healing modality into her practice as support for all women.