Nurturing Men and Loving Women
For the complete wellbeing of a man there needs to be nurture. The strength of that nurture depends on the depth of connection with both himself and everyone else. It is beyond question that our first nurturing comes from our mothers. This sustenance begins in the womb and, according to circumstance, may last for many years. Without this nurture we are diminished as a whole person and society likewise suffers the consequence of men who cannot love.
It is the love of men for women that provides the return of that nurture for having been nurtured. This love is accompanied by the understanding of why we need to honour that, which not only nurtures us, but also nurtures the nurturer in return.
If the original nurture of mother for child is not there, for whatever reason, there is no true nurture to be returned and consequently no ready basis for a loving life. Understanding nurturing in this way, and the foundation it brings is the only way our human species can raise a generation that can be free from a lack of nurture, a society that has grown in the wake of this lack.
We have developed a way of thinking that tends to isolate the part from the whole. We focus on the parts almost exclusively, even when thinking about the whole. Really, of course, the part partakes of the whole, in the same way a symbol partakes of the reality of what it represents. It is important, therefore, to endow the part with the quality of the whole.
When we look at the female breast in this way, we understand that it is not just a symbol of a woman; it is a bodily expression of the quality of the whole woman.
The female breast is an outlet for love. It is not just an image related to sexuality and lactation, as important as these are. These images, which men often have of the breasts, result in men being uncomfortable talking about them.
This discomfort leads to disrespect. Of course, this is a display of the significance that the female breast really has for a man, if he were only tender enough to show it. That tenderness is a strength, founded on true caring, resulting in true love.
It follows, from the above, that if women truly care for themselves, and for their breasts, as the organs of loving nurture, then both men and women are benefitted together.
If a woman brings her fullness of being in this way then men can feed back the nurture they have been fed. A man may finally lie his head down on a women’s breast, in utter simplicity and stillness; a state of recognition of profound equality.