Rebecca - Australia
I am such a woman now. How weird for a 34 year old woman to even have a distinction of being able to be a woman or not be a woman. It should just be a natural given ‘known’ but in my experience, it is not for many women. I have always been fun, loving, lively, insightful and active but I would never have said I am womanly. It had never even occurred to me to want to be Womanly, as for me and most of the women around me when I was growing up, the virtues of being a woman were more universally applied to men as well. In other words, who I felt myself to be was more gender neutral, I was a person and I didn’t really have an expression that was part of being a woman. My husband and I met young and we have never been set in traditional roles, nor did I ever consider it true to fit into them. We would often joke that in many ways he was more feminine than me and I was more masculine than him.
I remember one morning about 3 years ago, I was dressed in my big fluffy dressing gown and it was the day after I had received an Esoteric Breast Massage. I was walking across the room to the fridge and I remember I had really been enjoying my morning and how my body felt (quite a common experience after an EBM). Then from across the room my husband said to me, “you are so womanly when you walk”. This simple statement from my husband was so profound. I knew I had felt different since my last EBM session, I had felt more at ease and naturally loving in everything I was doing but I hadn’t considered this to be a womanly quality. At this moment I stopped and really felt my movement when I walked. My breasts had an open warmth (no hardness or protection) and my hips were free to naturally sway (not rigid or fixed in readiness for hard work, busyness or what I was expected to do).
On reflection, I had felt this womanly feeling on occasion as a teenager but it had never stuck and I had only started feeling it more and more regularly with each EBM session. I had not ever fully realised that, yes, I have a womanly quality that is beautiful for me to feel and live with and equally beautiful for my husband to feel and live with. Wow, I am such a woman and it is the healing quality of the Esoteric Breast Massage that has enabled my womanly expression to come out from its hiding.
I no longer see myself as gender neutral as I can feel the very real and needed womanly expression that I bring to my family and all those around me. And WOW what a man my husband is. The qualities of his care, his gentleness and cleanliness that I used to perceive as feminine are actually qualities of a strong, intelligent, engaged, caring man . . . a true gentleman. We still marvel over the different particular strengths and qualities that each of us brings to our relationship and our life but we never ever doubt the fact that I am absolutely womanly and he is an absolute a true man. How can there be any competition between the sexes when you fully know and accept the worth of what you bring as a man or a woman?
I sincerely thank the EBM for revolutionising my life.